" Though sticks and stones inflict great pain their hurt will fade away but just one sharp and biting word brings harm that's here to stay. Our words are powerful with them we can build up and encourage or we can tear down and destroy."
I think people don't realize how much their words can impact someone. It might seem like 'banter' to you, but to the person receiving it, it might not be. You might think you're being funny when you say these things but actually the words you say can, in some cases impact a persons life.
With words you can; crush dreams, build hope, make someone smile, make them cry, make them think, encourage, discourage, comfort, compliment, create stories and lies. Words can change lives.
I'm watching 'Finding Nemo' and in this film Marlin (the father fish) constantly tells Nemo (his son) that he can't do things. "You think you can do these things but you just can't Nemo!" Harmless words it might seem, yet Nemo believes them. In a different scene Nemo tells another fish "I can't! I have a bad fin" without even trying.
Nemo has been told he can't do things so he believe's it. - Do you see the point i'm trying to make?
If Marlin built up his sons confidence, instead of tearing it down, Nemo might of believed in himself (Yes I did just write about fictional fish. (i've watched the film 15 times in 3 days, go watch it guys))
Words are powerful. If you call someone fat and they believe you, they could starve themselves to prove you wrong. If you tell someone who's already suicidal to kill themselves, there is a chance they will. If you tell someone they won't be able to do something, they won't even attempt it. If you call someone fat, ugly, useless, worthless or stupid it will hurt them..
I'm not going to pretend I don't hurt people with my words. In fact, I never think before I speak and I'm always finding myself apologizing for cruel words I've said in the heat of the moment. Words that I don't even mean, its something that I need to work on and I'm assuming a lot of other people do to.
Words are powerful, use them wisely. Build up and encourage.
Take a second to think about this...
THINK before you speak. "Is it True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary Kind?
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Friday, 5 April 2013
Tuesday, 2 April 2013
Bad body image
If you haven't experienced or heard somebody talk about a 'Fat day' then you must have been hiding under a rock. Women get them regularly, probably more regularly than they get periods (sorry)! So what is it that we can do to improve our body image, or to at least look after ourselves on these days?
Remember that feeling fat and being fat are two different things.
Your body doesn't actually look any different to what it did yesterday and you haven't really gained a stone overnight. So it must be something psychological, what is it you're really feeling but projecting onto your body? Are you scared, nervous, anxious, lonely, feeling inadequate in comparison to someone else?
Each day say out loud something you like about yourself.
It doesn't matter what it is, just do it! Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are. Remind yourself how much you like your eyes or hair colour or anything - Just focus on the positives!
Do not compare yourself to anyone.
She might be a dress size smaller than you and his IQ might be higher than yours but that doesn't matter. Wishing you were like somebody else will just make you feel worse, wanting to be someone else is a waste of the amazing person you are! And, actually, the person you compare yourself too might not be any happier than you are.
Surround yourself with people who support you and make you feel good.
That one explains itself really, it isn't much use hanging around with people who make you feel rubbish.
Treat yourself how you would treat your best friend.
We are our own worst enemies, think how you would respond if it was a friend feeling this way. You wouldn't tell them not to eat for the day. You wouldn't say negative things to them and you certainly wouldn't punish them for the way they look. - start treating yourself as if you're a friend!
Be kind to yourself.
Do something nice for yourself, give yourself a manicure. Have a nice long bath. Go for a coffee with a friend. Treat yourself to something (shoes are always good). Whatever it might be if it stops you from doing something self destructive then do it. Even if you don't think you deserve it i'm telling that you do and i'm always right...
Its gone 1am so I guess i'll stop there. Remember YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
"How beautiful you are, my love; how perfect you are" Song of Solomon 4:7
Remember that feeling fat and being fat are two different things.
Your body doesn't actually look any different to what it did yesterday and you haven't really gained a stone overnight. So it must be something psychological, what is it you're really feeling but projecting onto your body? Are you scared, nervous, anxious, lonely, feeling inadequate in comparison to someone else?
Each day say out loud something you like about yourself.
It doesn't matter what it is, just do it! Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are. Remind yourself how much you like your eyes or hair colour or anything - Just focus on the positives!
Do not compare yourself to anyone.
She might be a dress size smaller than you and his IQ might be higher than yours but that doesn't matter. Wishing you were like somebody else will just make you feel worse, wanting to be someone else is a waste of the amazing person you are! And, actually, the person you compare yourself too might not be any happier than you are.
Surround yourself with people who support you and make you feel good.
That one explains itself really, it isn't much use hanging around with people who make you feel rubbish.
Treat yourself how you would treat your best friend.
We are our own worst enemies, think how you would respond if it was a friend feeling this way. You wouldn't tell them not to eat for the day. You wouldn't say negative things to them and you certainly wouldn't punish them for the way they look. - start treating yourself as if you're a friend!
Be kind to yourself.
Do something nice for yourself, give yourself a manicure. Have a nice long bath. Go for a coffee with a friend. Treat yourself to something (shoes are always good). Whatever it might be if it stops you from doing something self destructive then do it. Even if you don't think you deserve it i'm telling that you do and i'm always right...
Its gone 1am so I guess i'll stop there. Remember YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
"How beautiful you are, my love; how perfect you are" Song of Solomon 4:7
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